Hello everyone, I'm Selma Marshall. I would like to share my knowledge about wedding planning on this site. The wedding planning process often starts out slow with the selection of the decorations and venue. From there, the date seems to arrive faster and faster as the bride and groom pick their outfits to wear at the altar. Picking the outfits for the wedding party often proves even more difficult, especially when dealing with a number of different personalities and preferences. I would like to talk about ways to streamline the wedding planning process without upping stress levels. I hope you can use the information I provide to plan the wedding of your dreams.
When you and your significant other are planning the details of your wedding ceremony, one important topic to consider is your vows. A lot of people write their own vows, but doing so isn't always necessary. If you don't feel comfortable writing your vows, your officiant can help you to choose suitable words to exchange with each other. Should you both decide to write your vows, however, it's a good idea to try to match a number of details. Here are some examples.
Length
You might not want to hear one another's vows until your wedding ceremony, but talking openly about them is a good strategy to adopt. One topic to consider is the length of the vows. While each of you might be keen on sharing a few sentiments during this part of the ceremony, it's ideal to write your vows so that they're roughly the same length. For example, it can seem strange if one person speaks for a couple of minutes, and then the other recites his or her vows in just 10 seconds. Choose a duration that works for both of you — and then write within this guideline.
Memorization
Some people love the idea of memorizing their vows and reciting them during their wedding ceremony. Other people prefer reading off a card or a sheet of paper — perhaps because they want to ensure they don't lose their place and panic. Either approach can work well, but it's ideal if you and your significant other choose the same strategy. This way, you'll look equal as you recite your vows — rather than perhaps one person looking like an overachiever for memorizing the words while the other reads off a sheet of paper.
Tone
It's also a good idea to discuss the overall tone of your vows with your significant other before you each begin to write them. Some people like the idea of their vows being very emotional — perhaps resulting in few dry eyes remaining in the wedding venue by the time the vows finish. There are other people who don't want to get too emotional in front of their guests and who may prefer vows that are a little more light-hearted. It can be nice to discuss the various tones that you can follow and choose a common one with your significant other. This can avoid the potentially awkward challenges of one set of vows being a tear-jerker and the other being comical, which could make the latter seem silly.
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